04 Jan The Therapist Archetype

It dawn on me that my Therapist Archetype is not working with my intimate relationships. Why? Because I see others with, “what is not working for this person?” I ended up trying to fix and feeling disappointed when the other person does not need my help. This is clearly an attachment. I am letting go of this and free myself from expectations. Do not dig deep, listen and let it flow. It is actually a lot easier to be. This is also like the Rescuer Archetype. The rescuer learns boundary in their work, to feel fulfilled without adding expectations to the outcome.

Relationships are here to open our eyes to what is not seen. I perceived that I was trying to fix someone is through my feelings. I went deeper into my heart chakra and truly feel, ask myself, “what bothers me?” Then, it occur to me that the other person is teaching me the lesson of letting go of expectations and boundary.

Roles can be confusing, especially if you are wired to help others. In order to clear this, it was pointed out to me that the other person wants someone to listen and not to be fix. It is quite freeing to hear this as it felt a burden was lifted off my shoulders. This is freedom. I can be me without this need to help.

The shadow of the therapist is not being able to be weak. There is an armor or defense mechanism that we somehow unconsciously put on. It takes vulnerability to expose your weakness, so the therapist puts on this role of the “fixer” then we are unable to expose our own shadows. The true healthy relationships is being open, trusting and allowing others to be.

I ask myself to go deeper, I found that this is about control. Control has many layers and deeper roots which is the fear of letting go. When we are insecure, not validated as a child; we develop a personality of being needed. This insecurity stems from no validation. We become fragmented ego. We do not feel wholesome. We grab attention. We are attached to expectations to the outcome of situations. Because when we have control, we feel connected. This is the mis-aligned energies from our Higher Self.

The Higher Self or Soul is the hologaphic fields of all our fragmented self. When we discover some aspects of us that appears as shadows, we anchor this shadow and illuminate it. We become aware of our hooks and with this awareness we illumined our mind. Our roles that we take are our Archetypes or blueprints that we have agreed upon. Our Sacred Contracts that will assist us in this incarnation to experience, understand and transform. When we are willing to listen, the Universe gives us these souls that we have agreed upon to play in this universal fields. We are powerful beings of Light. Open your mind and heart to what is in front of you. These are the sacred appointments given to us by the Divine Orchestrator! Free your mind and heart, let go of control.