26 Feb Breaking the pleasure barriers

Today I am teaching Sacred Sexuality through Tantra practices and wanted you to be in tune with my intention to help other women release their pleasure barriers. I have noticed that I am surrounded by middle aged women who are not having sex. What are their reasons?

There a lot of illusions about deep embedded unconscious negative beliefs about their own body. We got imprinted from the past conditioning either by our society, past relationships or family dynamics. As for me growing up with strict Catholic religion, there was a lot of shame and guilt that was passed on to me.

Through this soul’s journey, I found myself going through tumultuous agony about my own sexuality. It is not easy especially if you experienced sexual abuse from your own family or others, it is like this thick cloud over my head. It created a lot of confusion, separation and anger. I was confused about my own pleasure, separated from my own body’s desires and what I want to experience. I was polarized between moral issues and how I really felt. I was fucked up in the head!

My body is a temple and it is sacred. My sexuality is sacred, and I honor myself. But when it comes to having erotic pleasure and orgasm with a partner, I feel guilty. Is it because I am not married to this person? Is it because my partner has no attachment to what society thinks what a relationship should looks like? After breaking up with him for 6 months, I realized that he was right. I had an attachment about what a relationship should look like. The fact that we are having the most orgasmic and tantric experience I have had in my life is a sign that my body is happy.

Isn’t this the perfect answer? My body is happy. But I made it more complicated because of illusions in my head. I am learning a lot about my body and what the illusion is. You are wasting your time when you live inside your head. What I learned is that I have to be present in my body. I learned to understand what feels good and accept the flow of life. Honoring the gifts that life gives to me. I feel more integrated and grounded. I have no attachment to the outcome. I am free.

I know that my body’s pleasures are a direct experience with my spirituality. There is no separation between my body and spirit. I am one with what is given to me. I take my time to fully love myself and I know that I deserve to feel this tantric orgasm. My body leads me to what is present, and I have let go of the what ifs.

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